Excerpt from ‘How to be adored’ Caroline Cox

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I thought you would love this…good for business!   Nine Ways to Put Charm in Your Voice!   BY JOHN POWERS

1. BE ENTHUSIASTIC. Put happy words in your speech, words that express enthusiasm. Say them with a tone that expresses your enthusiasm:

Thank you for a wonderful evening
It was such a grand party
What an interesting collection
We enjoyed having you
Yes, I’d love to come

Practice hanging on for an extra second to the words that reveal your enthusiasm.

2. PUT A SMILE IN YOUR VOICE. A smile can be heard as well as seen. The next time you speak on the telephone arrange to sit near a mirror so you can see whether your smile is there. If you smile as you speak, the smile will be reflected in your tone. Don’t forget to hold the happy words to emphasize them. And smile as you read such sentences as these aloud:

I am so happy to hear about your new job. Congratulations and good luck!

3. KEEP MONOTONY OUT OF YOUR VOICE. Read this sentence without changing your tone level:

I SAW THE NEW ART EXHIBIT AT THE MUSEUM TODAY.
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Now try the same sentence following these dips and rises:

I SAW THE NEW ART EXHIBIT AT THE MUSEUM TODAY.

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Notice how a dull statement of fact becomes an interesting report. Lead upwards to the important words in order to give your voice variety and emphasis. A monotone makes your listener lose interest, no matter exciting your story. Start off with a normal lowered tone so you can rise without straining or forcing your voice.

4. DON’T SPEAK IN A SHRILL VOICE. Since the female voice is normally higher pitched than a man’s, it gets out of control more easily. A shrill voice grates on the nerves and indicates tension and strain. Work to bring it down to a pleasing, lower pitch. Your posture affects the sound of your voice. Raise your ribcage to give your voice room to get out. When your chin is resting on your chest, your voice has to fight to escape. Keep your head high and level to prevent constriction of the throat muscles and vocal cords.

5. DEVELOP RESONANCE IN YOUR VOICE. Speaking through pursed lips, clenched teeth and locked jaw stifles the resonance. Practice talking with a relaxed lip and jaw action. Test the difference by whispering across the room. To make a whisper understood at a distance calls foe exaggerated mouth action. You won’t want to keep up the exaggeration in public, but it is a good private means of [practicing resonance. Open your mouth properly when you speak and let the sound flow out in deep, rich tones.

6. TAKE YOUR TIME. Don’t rush through your words. Slow down the pace and you will sound more confident, less strained. Open your mouth and move your lips while speaking. It will slow you down and make you easier to understand. If you’re in a hurry to finish what you’re saying, your listener will be equally eager to have you fish. Create interest in your conversation by speaking in an easy, relaxed manner.
 
7. SPEAK CLEARLY. Clear speech is well groomed speech. Don’t be careless about slipping over your consonants. L and R are often overlooked. Hold those letters and say them clearly.
 
Instead of awright, awready, awmost, roll out the L and say all right, all ready, all most – Instead of sistuh, brothuh, mothuh, say sister, brother, mother.

8. AVOID A NASAL TWANG. N, M, and NG and the nasal sounds. They must vibrate through the nasal passages to have a pleasant sound. When they are voiced through the mouth rather than the nose, they are distorted and have an unpleasant twang. Remember when you’ve had a bad head cold and your pronunciation of M, N and NG couldn’t get through the stuffed nasal tract?

Pinch your nostrils closed and say hum, none, some, come. Feel the stifled vibrations? Now release the nostrils and hold the M and N sounds.
Hummmmm, nonnnne, sommmme, commme. Do the same with NG: sing, ring, cling, wing. Release the nostrils and hold the NG sounds: singing, ringing, clinging, winging. Always let these three important nasal consonants come forth in a pleasant, low pitched tone.

9. CONTROL THE VOLUME OF YOUR VOICE. A loud voice is not becoming to a lady, and a loud voice becomes a shrill voice. Have you ever listened to the women’s voices at a large party? As the talk becomes more animated, the voice pitch rises until it is almost deafening. Lower your volume and you will lower your pitch. If your articulation is perfect, you can be heard clearly even though your tone is soft.

Have fun with it!

Love

Alison

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